The Shocking Way A Guy’s Hands Can Reveal If He’s Emotionally Distant (Before You Get In Too Deep)
Spot the signs early on.
In palm reading, aka the art of divining truth from someone’s hand, there is a lot to be learned from a simple glance if you know where to look. Palmistry reveals a lot about a person’s personality, mental state, and even their ability to communicate with you.
It can also reveal whether or not your man is emotionally unavailable or distant and save you some potential heartbreak further down the line.
Learning how to connect with someone in any relationship is a process, but when only one of you is giving it your all, it has the potential to eventually doom the relationship. Emotionally unavailable men struggle to attach to you and, in fact, may never be able to fully connect in a healthy way without doing some significant self-healing work first.
If you’re in a relationship with a man who’s emotionally detached, it may not seem obvious at first. Perhaps you’ve only started seeing each other recently, or things aren’t that serious yet. Maybe you’ve been together for a while and you think you’re falling in love, but you’re not sure if he feels the same.
His behavior might be hard to read, and you’re left feeling confused over whether or not he feels anything for you at all.
In this case, taking a quick look at his hands — more specifically, the lines on his hands — will give you a good idea about whether or not he’s truly emotionally unavailable.
The lines on your palm will change over the years, based on life experiences and your ability to heal and overcome emotional challenges.
So while the following lines may indicate that your guy is currently emotionally distant, that doesn’t mean he won’t be able to work through these issues in the future.
Of the lines in your palm, the most significant one you’ll want to look at for his emotional connectivity is the heart line. The heart line is the uppermost of the major lines on your hand, running typically from below your little finger toward the center or even the opposite edge of the palm. There are quite a few variations on this line, but typically it will end up somewhere near your first or second finger.
This region of your hand indicates how much you feel and how you express those feelings, which is why it’s important to note when trying to determine whether or not your man is emotionally available for you.
Here are 7 ways palm reading lines can tell you if a man is emotionally unavailable:
1. His heart line is short and straight
Since your heart line is your emotional “flow” line, meaning it indicates your ability to regulate and deal with your emotions, having a straight or short line is quite significant.
When someone has this type of heart line, it’s called an Earth-type line, which means that they are not focused on emotions… Period. The shorter this line, the less the person feels overall. And if their heart line is quite straight, it means they lack expressiveness, which means you won’t see a lot of declarations of affection from this person.
This is, in a way, a “James Bond” heart line. It shows a man on a mission. He leaves feelings out of the equation and likely isn’t interested in pursuing an emotional connection at this time.
2. He has a “low-set” heart line
The closer to the middle of a palm the heart line runs, the deeper they’ve buried their emotions. Usually, this is an indication that they had some kind of event in the past that created a need for them to keep those feelings deeply stuffed down.
People with low-set heart lines will take longer to connect since their emotions are literally “buried.” If your guy has this line in his palm, it means he may not be emotionally distant so much as unwilling to open up to you. He’s not going to trust right away, but with time and consistency from you, he’ll feel comfortable and safe.
3. There are breaks in the heart line
A healthy heart line extends across the palm in a single line, ideally. However, there are sometimes breaks that can suggest periods of emotional trauma and pain that caused an actual “break” in the continuity. Occasionally, there can even be multiple breaks in the line.
These breaks can be considered problematic for a relationship because they indicate that there is deep unresolved emotional pain.
Men with these breaks may not have the ability to be in a healthy emotional relationship, and therefore may wind up being emotionally distant or emotionally unavailable. In order for them to overcome this, they need to face and address the problem. Until they are willing to put in the work in order to heal from their dilemma, however, they’ll have trouble making a healthy emotional connection with anyone.
4. He has “dropping crosses”
If there are “x” shaped marks, or “crosses” beneath his heart line beneath the Apollo (ring) or Mercury (little) fingers, these signs indicate that he feels unsupported emotionally.
Dropping crosses show that there may have been relationship issues either in the past or still ongoing that make him feel that he can’t turn to anyone for help. He may feel withdrawn and emotionally distant because he doesn’t feel as though anyone can support his emotional needs.
In this instance, being there for him and helping him learn to trust you will be huge in making him feel like he can lean on you and connect in a healthier way.
5. There are “islands” in the heart line
These marks appear as “bubbles”, or round, circular marks along the heart line. They indicate a period of emotional strain, though it comes from many issues and doesn’t simply suggest a romantic one.
If there are islands on his heart line, he’s going to distance himself emotionally because trying to get close to someone is too painful for him. He may attempt to keep things light and casual between the two of you, but will not be able to form an emotional bond until he does the work and addresses the past hurts that caused the islands to begin with.
The more islands in the heart line, the more complicated the emotional strain. And whether he’s grieving someone he lost to death, a breakup, a situation in his life, or even a falling out with a friend or family member, he’ll pull away from new connections in order to lessen the pain. Though islands remain on the hand, the good news is that he can heal from this, if he is willing to put in the work.
6. He has a small Venus mount
The Venus mount is the rounded pad of your palm directly next to your thumb. This part of the hand is important in palmistry because it signifies your “giving energy.” This portion of the hand can indicate whether or not someone is introverted or extroverted, but in this case, it can also show just how much emotional energy someone has to give.
The Venus mount should be puffy—but not overly so—and should have a good elasticity when squeezed, meaning it returns to its original shape pretty well.
When this mount is small on someone’s hand, it’s a sign of reduced giving energy. Someone with a small Venus mount will be emotionally distant because they literally don’t have the ability to give more of themselves in a relationship. This may be due to stress or difficulties in their life that are pulling their emotional energy away at the moment.
7. There is a Mercury “challenge” line across his palm
This mark is a line that runs diagonally across the hand from the Mars mount just above the thumb toward the Mercury mount beneath the little finger. The stronger this line, the more difficult your man may have trying to get intimate with you on a real, emotional level.
The challenge line suggests that he may struggle with trusting people and will appear emotionally distant for this reason.
The challenge line is rather common on people’s hands though, and I would estimate that five out of ten hands I’ve seen have carried it. So while it may indicate that your guy is currently struggling to connect or trust you, it doesn’t mean he won’t.
As with any marking on a palm, these are signs that there has been hurt or emotional pain in the past, but if he’s willing to put in the effort and try and heal from his trauma, he will still have the ability to bond with people in the future.
These signs don’t mean that your man will never trust or open up to you, but it does mean you need to be aware of the potential issues that come from emotional pain and the real problem of him being emotionally unavailable for you. If you’re in a relationship with a man who carries any of these marks, you’ll both have to work hard to overcome these emotional connection issues.
It may seem like a big challenge in the beginning, but putting in the effort will reward you both with a deep, intimate connection to each other.